Category: Relationships

As a woman, how can I avoid settling for the wrong partner?

Anna, Dishonesty is the rotten core of so many relationships. Too many women settle to get a man. Women believe there are too many women for the number of men, and they “sell out” to get a man. Yes, it is disgusting in this day and age, but it is a reality. I know women…
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Should I tell my partner I don’t like the gift he gave me?

William, Be honest about not liking jewelry or gifts you receive. Believe me, I have been through this myself. Just sit down and tell the other person you love him or her, but this gift is not your taste. Your partner spent lots of money on a gift and wants it to be something you…
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Why are family secrets harmful?

Joseph, Family secrets are family lies. Dishonesty is not just what one says verbally, but also what is held in silence. I have always lived by the statement “Secrets kill and the truth heals.” A family secret is like a hidden ticking bomb just waiting to explode. The family constructs a life around the impending…
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What is shunning?

Lia, Shunning is an ancient practice that is still used today in many cultures, and humans have an innate fear of it. When a member of any group disagrees with the norms or the values of the family, the family may expel that person from the group. The Amish and other religions use this practice…
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How common is dishonesty in the workplace?

Dylan, How common is dishonesty in the workplace? Fifteen percent of workers reported they were caught in a lie at the office. Nearly one in four hiring managers — 24 percent — say they have fired an employee for being dishonest. Clearly this is a growing problem that we must face head-on.

What are the effects of lies and dishonesty?

Vanessa, We live in a culture of dishonesty, in a time of lies. Some corporations have betrayed our trust and wounded our belief in fair business practices. Our government and corporations have been dishonest about climate change. Mothers and fathers worry about the honesty of their children and install computer programs and video monitors to…
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Please help me understand why some people are jealous?

Dylan, Jealousy is complicated and so are the root causes. Jealousy is pretty complex, and can involve all sorts of emotions, like fear, anger and humiliation. There are many explanations for seeing green, and for decades, psychologists have been researching what may be to blame. Jealousy is very emotional and, at times, difficult to work…
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What is the role of optimism in marriage?

Mark, The institution of marriage is based on optimism. I believe the definition of marriage should include the word optimism. How can you stand before another person and repeat those vows and not have a seed of optimism within you? You pledge to stay with another person for the rest of your life through being…
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What is the importance of optimism in a relationship?

Rhett, From the time we are young, many of us wonder if we will find someone to partner with for a lifetime. The moment we slip that ring on our finger the optimism begins careening downhill like a runaway vehicle. Before you know it, “optimism” creates a list of desires: a car, a home, a…
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How can money affect my relationship with my partner?

Kyle, The first wound in a relationship usually involves finances. This is where fear, anxiety; anger, and depression can begin to plague two people in a committed partnership. The myth that two people can live as cheaply as one persists. That almost never happens. Whatever you do, don’t wait until after you are married to…
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